Give yourself to god no dating
This means you do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him.Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship.Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp. That would be awesome, but it’s not always realistic. If you are a Christian, God isn’t a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn’t even have God as a piece of the pie? Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient, or settling. I am fearful the Christian community has irresponsibly coerced men and women into marriage through cultural pressure.
The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary.
So you’ve finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him.
You should make an effort to show him you’re a real find, right? The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn’t involve any effort at all. IT’S NOT WHAT YOU DO, IT’S WHAT YOU ARE When we meet a great guy, we women often try to do, do, do whatever we can to make him see what a great catch we are.
At the same time, you aren’t prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you’re a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize.
This elevates your “degree of difficulty” so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself…or risk another guy beating him to it.