Dating an amputee
That isn’t always the case, especially if you’re dating an amputee.
The best way to make sure you’re going to have a blissful experience is preparation.
Unfortunately, the thought of disclosing a limb difference to a new admirer can be intimidating, even for the most self-assured amputee.
Stephanie Bastos, 29, has learned all about that since losing her right leg below the knee as the result of a tragic automobile accident when she was 18.“My attitude was like, this is crazy, but life goes on,” remembers Stephanie, a first-generation Brazilian-American and professional dancer who began her training and performance career with the Miami Ballet in Florida.
Usually, though, Stephanie waits for “the right time to approach the subject.”The stereotype is that models are shallow, but that’s not what Stephanie has found.
In fact, her experience shows that with a positive attitude and a little self-esteem, there is no reason that amputees can’t date the hottest person in the room.
“I was a senior in high school, and I was looking forward to parties, graduation night and boys.” Introducing her prosthetic leg to potential boyfriends, however, has proved to be a gamble.
Once her date was out the door, however, she proceeded to dance and exchange numbers with the other guy.“I don’t know why, but I came out of this shell after the accident, and all these guys were interested in me,” says Stephanie, “I think guys saw this 18-year-old who was not tripping about losing a leg.”High-school hormones may make hooking up easier, but dating tends to get a little more complicated with age.“I was in Tampa, Florida, at a karaoke bar,” Stephanie says, “and this really good-looking guy with long blond hair came up to the table and introduced himself.Then he asks if I would like to sing a song with him.” He turned out to be a Calvin Klein model, and they became a couple for two years.If Stephanie is on a date and the well-intentioned prospect pops the generic question, “So, tell me about you,” she isn’t quick to say, “Well, I’m Stephanie, I’m Latin, and I lost my leg when I was 18.” That’s not her style.“My leg isn’t a topic of conversation right off the bat unless he notices,” she says.If she is limping, and he wonders what’s going on, then she will briefly talk about her accident.