Blind dating tips men
So screen out any no-gos by posing a few questions about the guy to your matchmaker.
First off, is he actually looking to pursue a relationship or is he into playing the field?
"Often, friends or family will just fix up two people because they're both young and single, without really taking into account whether they're compatible," says psychologist Edward A. "In order to be successfully matched up on a blind date, you have to take steps that will ensure you're only going out with people who actually have potential." Cribbing these tips will help: Be Clear About Your Specific Criteria "You have to guide matchmakers when they're trying to come up with someone you might like," says Dreyfus.
The solution: Cast a wider net...though still be selective.If you decide that a dude isn't dateable, it's okay to turn down the offer. Instead of saying "Nah, not for me," which may insult your matchmaker and put an end to any future setups, say something like "He sounds amazing, but I'm not sure I'm right for someone who just got out of a relationship/studies molecular biology/doesn't exercise at all.But keep me in mind if you think of someone else who might be more my type." That way, it'll be clear that you're weighing potential compatibility and not just slamming the guy."You can even think about your friends' boyfriends' admirable traits." And corny as it sounds, if you need help getting all of your thoughts organized, write it all down on a list for yourself.Related Video Don't worry about being too superficial either.